Do You Have These Likable Traits?
How Likeable Are You?
I watched a Will Smith movie the other day and got to thinking, “Gosh, I like that guy.” This isn't about Smith’s ability to act or rap, which he is clearly very talented, it's about his overall likability.
Soon after ruminating about the Fresh Prince, I stumbled upon this quote by Smith, "I've trained myself to illuminate the things in my personality that are likable and to hide and protect the things that are less likable."
I believe if we all focus on what makes us more likable, we will spread that positivity to others. We will see more success in our businesses, careers and personal lives. As the adage goes, people do business with those they know, like and trust.
I decided to do a little investigating into what makes us likable. I posted the question on Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. The comments came quickly and while they might have been written differently, I was able to summarize them into a collection of the most common likable traits in people.
The Traits of Highly Likable People
Empathy and kindness: The most common answer among the comments and tweets I received were variations relating to treating people kindly and sincerely caring for them. Care about others, and they will care about you.
Strong listening skills: When you are speaking with someone, treat them like they are the only person in the room. A fun fact about the word “listen” is it is an anagram for “silent”. When you speak with people, ask them about themselves. Stay silent and ask follow up questions related to their answers.
Eye contact and smiling: Smiles are contagious. I’ve experimented with this myself. Try spending your day smiling when you are in public. You will be surprised to see how many people return a smile. As they do this, another passerby might think it was directed to her, and she will return the smile, and so on. As you speak with people, be sure you look them in the eyes. This shows that you are truly engaged in what they are saying.
Be authentic and honest: Being authentic doesn’t mean you are an open book. Remember how Will Smith said he hides and protects the less appealing things about his personality? Instead focus on your honest positive self by being truthful, sincere and genuine.
A sense of humor: Let’s face it, we all love to laugh. One commenter noted that the use of humor is best served without sarcasm. Several people mentioned how your use of humor must be positive and light instead of critical and mean.
Some of the other traits mentioned included being sincere, showing a natural confidence in oneself, being dependable, emotionally vulnerable and transparent, and including humility.
Tap into these traits and consider how they fit your personality. I can’t promise you will become the next Prince of Bel-Air, but I am confident you will see positive results by becoming more likable. Grab my NiceMaker.co newsletter if you would like more ideas.
Photo from Flickr by Gage Skidmore.
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